communion-in-conversation.txt A guide on how to be into a conversation

Original Author: Sahil Gautam <printfdebugging@gmail.com>
Homepage: <https://printfdebugging.in/>
License: GNU GPL v2

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CONTENTS

    1. Why Think About it                                                  why
    2. Listening Without Agendas                               without-agendas
    3. The Moments of Silence                               moments-of-silence

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Why Think About it                                                         why

    it's easy to start acting like a christan missionary thinking that you
    know the truth and other's don't. it's easy to hear what others are saying
    but never actually listen to them.

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Listening Without Agendas                                      without-agendas

    true listening is only when there is communion in a conversation, when one
    is with the other listening to what's being said without judgement and
    when one doesn't have anything to prove or win out of a conversation.

    - it goes wrong the moment we enter a conversation
    - we want to either prove someone wrong, or establish what we say as truth
    - there's something to gain out of the conversation personally

    communication is a really selfless act where one has to be free from any
    kind of division to actually listen, to be with what's being said.

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The Moments of Silence                                      moments-of-silence

    most conversations, after some time come to a point where both you and the
    other don't have anything to say, you are out of ideas. the usual thought
    then is to find something else to continue the conversation, something
    which takes away this awkwardness.

    one must understand that these silent pauses are a very important part of
    a conversation, it's time to reflect on what has been said and heard. a 
    conversation doesn't have to be a constant chatter of words, it might as
    well be a sine wave, of dialogues and pauses...

    sometimes it's better to take breaks by explisitly mentioning it so that
    you can think over what was discussed and whether you understand it or
    not. it can be in the middle of the conversation for a moment maybe when
    something important/deep is said.
    
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