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our brains are wired to pay more attention to the negative side, to the shortcomings, to differences and it amplifies them. that's why some outrageous fake news spreads so fast, that's why we need moderators in forums and public rooms.
this becomes much more important in 1:1 conversations or even in group conversations specially at new places where we are constantly judging others and forming an opinion of them. take some time and let things settle, the "bad" guys aren't that bad and the "good" guys aren't that good, they are just people, just like you.